What is the difference between can’t and won’t? Can’t means you don’t have the skill, won’t means you don’t have the desire. I feel a lot of us get the two confused. Well, at least I do.
I hear myself saying, “I can’t lose weight.” When in actuality I should say “I won’t lose weight,” because I am not really trying. I am not making any changes. Can’t makes it easier to walk away without blame. I have started asking myself, “you can’t, or you won’t?” It helps me be accountable for the decisions I am making.
I shared a “meme” today in one of our FB groups, “Whatever you are not CHANGING, you are CHOOSING.” Read that again. (The “read that again” was actually part of it, but I do in fact want you to read it again.) How many times do you wish things were different, how many times do you stop and make a conscious decision to change the things you can and then just don’t? Sometimes we just go through the motions, we allow habits or the easy way to become the norm. Worse yet, we are stuck or trapped. You can change your environment, your thoughts and the roads you travel. Whether it be business or personal life, take baby steps to change what your gut is telling you needs changing! That feeling in “your gut,” is your intuition, and it is A THING…listen to it.
My current change isn’t a big one, I have decided to listen to my body more, pay attention to the little aches and pains and try to find ways to take better care of myself. Why do we need to act big and strong and “suffer through” when that is not necessary?!?! I visited with my Doctor, earlier than my planned annual physical, and there are some numbers that are off and we’re working on getting them where they should be. I also have discovered Myofascial Release Massage, and this tired, old body is already very grateful. I no longer feel guilty taking an hour a month and spending the money to help my body rest. Once a month I visit Christie Chadwick at Leland Holistic Wellness, for my massage, which sometimes is a mix of myofascial release, massage and reiki. I look forward to the time to stop and allow my body, and my mind, to rest. When you tell yourself that you can’t find the time, STOP and make sure you in fact, won’t find the time. You will find time for the things you want to, and self care is a very good reason to find the time. You cannot take care of everyone else if you never take care of yourself. Changes don’t have to be HUGE, they just need to be a step in getting you from where you are to where you want to be and it’s ok to invest in yourself!
Is there something you know you need to change and you just refuse to find a way or the time to do it?
It isn’t always about having time, its about making time.